Strength Lies Within Us

What is the most challenging thing to do? Suppressing your emotions and acting like you don't feel anything at all. Yearning for change but feeling trapped in a cycle of disappointments. Constantly explaining, yet receiving no advancements in return. And you know what is the most difficult thing to do? To end up taking other people's shortcomings as your own failures, flaws, or weaknesses.

When you face challenges or setbacks, it's easy to fall into the trap of blaming yourself, even for circumstances beyond your control. You develop the habit of overthinking, which keeps you awake at night. You keenly read into every situation. You try to find many reasons to tone down your own emotions in order to protect someone else's. You often think, There must be something difficult about me that doesn't inspire people to understand my perspective!

Regardless of the circumstances, whether it is family, a romantic relationship, or even a career case, there are going to be situations where the other person can't give you what you need. You tend to internalize it and make it all about yourself and what you are doing wrong. The truth is, deep down, you are aware of overdoing your part. There is a profound observer inside you who always knows the reality of your situation. But the weight of shame and fear holds you back from confronting others about it. You're afraid to bring it up because you know what they'll say. You'll simply learn to deal with a livable amount of pain. Even so, you must consider that not all situations are about your own worth or weaknesses. You need to remind yourself that if someone has failed you, it's not necessarily because you deserved it but because they didn't know how to love you or how to stick around for you due to their own flaws and inadequacies.

This isn't to say you shouldn't introspect, explore within, and self-inquire about what you could do differently when someone fails to understand you. But what you absolutely should not do is continue to beat yourself up for someone else's actions or inaction. Remember that your worth is not on the line here, and it never was. If a bad person or situation comes across your life, it's not on you.

Accepting your role in every situation is good. It doesn't mean you should believe in what's not a failure on your part and continue to punish yourself because a few limited individuals couldn't rise to your level. In a world where our emotions are often concealed, silent battles are fought, and unspoken truths weigh heavily on our hearts, it's essential to remember that strength lies within us. Be your own go-to person. Normalize cheering for yourself, celebrating yourself, and being compassionate to yourself. It must not be difficult to find people who align with your vibration and return the same energy instead of continuing the exhausting patterns. You won't always be alone in your tribulations. There is a world willing to listen and walk with you through the shadows.

Let's welcome the power of vulnerability and open the doors to understanding, compassion, and healing.